“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
What is the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony?
A sacrament is a visible sign of an invisible reality that gives grace. In marriage, the visible sign is the love that a husband and wife have for each other. The invisible reality to which they point is the love that Jesus has for his bride, the Church. In the Sacrament of Marriage, God gives grace, that is to say, supernatural power, to make His own love, mercy, generosity, kindness, and compassion tangible.
The task of marriage is to make the invisible God visible by the love a husband and wife have for each other. They do this first for one another, then for their children if God should bless them with children, and then for all those who know them. Knowing how hard real love is, we pray daily for those of you who are married, so that you might be beautiful witnesses of God’s love.
Diocesan regulations are followed. One party must live within the parish boundaries, must be a practicing Catholic and registered parishioner. No date will be confirmed until the coupe has met with a Priest. At least six months preparation time is required. Please call the parish office to begin this preparation.
The Archdiocesan Marriage Preparation Guidelines state that a couple should attend at least one of these programs: Pre-Cana, Marriage as Covenant, Forming a Blended Family, and/or the Parish Sponsor Couple program. Couples desiring an opportunity for more in-depth preparation often attend two of these programs.
Pre-Cana is a day for couples preparing for the Sacrament of Marriage. A specially prepared volunteer team of married couples and a priest, share their experiences and information with the intention of enabling engaged couples to be more aware of the privileges and responsibilities of marriage.
The program for the weekend is presented by a team of married couples and a priest. The team couples share their own personal journey of marriage in relation to selected topics. After each presentation, the engaged couples are given questions that are related to the topic of the presentation. The couples then share their responses with one another.
All marriages have challenges, but for some couples preparing for remarriage, who have children, these challenges are unique. The spouses will have gone through the death of a partner or divorce and will have been deeply affected by these experiences. Often remarriage involves the blending of families, a challenge in and of itself, mostly due in part to unanticipated problems and miscommunication. "Forming a Blended Family" a new program is being offered by the Office of Family Life. This class may be used as a Marriage preparation class but all couples with blended families are invited to attend. Please call the Office of Family Life (405) 721-8944 for more information.
Marriage Encounter is a process designed to give you and your spouse a special opportunity to examine your life together and your strengths and your limitations, your attitudes toward each other and toward your family, your hurts and your fears, your desires and ambitions, your disappointments and your joys, your successes and frustrations. Call the Office of Family Life 721-8944 to register.
Every engaged couple should be knowledgeable in Natural Family Planning (NFP). Introductory / Informational Sessions and courses on NFP are offered each month at the Office of Family Life and throughout the Archdiocese. Learn more about “A Way of Life, A Way of Love”, by calling (405) 721-8944 or email Ana Romero (Aromero@archokc.org) for the schedule or to make an appointment.
See the Creighton Model for more information.
The readings at a Catholic wedding liturgy are a proclamation of God’s Word and of the Church’s faith about marriage. For this reason, they are limited to readings from the scriptures (the Bible). There are nine options for the first reading from the Old Testament, thirteen options for the second reading from the New Testament and ten choices for the Gospel. You choose one from each of these categories.
For information about music for weddings, please download the Wedding Music PDF.
As the marriage date approaches, couples are highly encouraged to prepare for the Sacrament of Marriage by celebrating the Sacrament of Reconciliation. It is recommended the couples individually receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation from the priest who will preside at the wedding.
Whether preparing for marriage or already married, we recommend the Beloved video series which can be viewed on FORMED.org for free using our Parish Code: DFY678
For more information about annulments please visit the Archdiocese Tribunal.